I've had to evaluate the relationships and friendships that I have had in my life and what importance they hold for me. In one of the modern interpretations of the Catholic Mass the preist say to the congregation "the ones we love the most we hurt the most". If that's always true it's a wonder we keep forming bonds of love and friendship knowing that those very people are the ones who will cause us the most pain.
Another bit of coloquial wisdom holds "everything happens for a reason", and don't forget that "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger". I'm not sure that is indeed true. The more often one gets hurt and the deeper the hurt goes one's ability to love and trust indeed one's confidence in her own ability to recognize good character are seriously damaged. It's not necessarily a bad thing to learn to take care when chosing who to trust, but its not better just to trust no one. It's a lonely isolated place to be. I suppose everything does happen for someone's reason... but that does not make it a good reason. And I truly feel that some adversity teaches caution, but repeated exposure to bad situation isolates and destroy trust to the extent that it may never be repaired.
Lauren
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